External Validation

A recent unnatural death of a famous Bollywood star put the whole of India and many of her fans worldwide in shock. News flashed all over about people deeply mourning the loss of a super star, loss of a highly gifted, versatile actor. There were also media reports and statistics of the number of cosmetic surgeries, face uplifts the actress had undergone. There were reports of alcohol abuse.

I was always in awe of this talented versatile actress and I think she deserved a more graceful death, fully imbibing who she really was, fully owning her beauty, her talent, her gifts, her imperfections, her limitations, her weakness, her true self, her being.

In our daily lives, We constantly seek approvals .. from our parents, spouses, family, society, community, workplace etc.  As we grow, the pressure soars up. There is always somebody in the external environment who is constantly screening and monitoring us.  In these circumstances, It’s easy to drift from who we are, what we stand for? Its easy to move away from our true self towards wearing a facade of what we think would get approved because we are constantly seeking external validations, constantly seeking approvals to boost our self esteem.

We all need external validations, but the question is how much? how much influence this has on you? And how much importance do you need to give to these external validation and approvals?

When the gap between your true self and the facade that you wear, increases.. there is a conflict and sometimes a war. You may feel miserable at times because you are building your self esteem – how you feel about yourself only from ‘what others think of you’ and that influences how you feel at any given moment.

To silence this inner voice many seek instant gratification with substance abuse, alcohol… Are these addressing the real problems?.. Hell no!

Instead of turning towards instant gratification, How about filling the bucket of self esteem with self worth?

Self worth comes from understanding your true self, self love and acceptance of who you truly are. Acceptance of your flaws, your limitations, your being – accepting yourself wholeheartedly at all times, despite your flaws, weaknesses, and limitations.

Its about how you value and regard yourself in spite of what others may say or do.Nothing outside of your “being” influences how you feel about yourself. It’s about recognizing the real value of who you are.

 

–       It means having unshakable faith in yourself and in your ability.

• It means external factors –people, success, failures have little influence on your worth.
• It means owning yourself fully.
• It means not allowing anyone else to take the power away from you.
• It means taking full responsibility for your life.

 

TRUST yourself, LOVE yourself for who you truly are… because you are WORTHY. Yes, you have flaws. Yes, you have limitations and you have weaknesses and WE ALL DO. Nobody is perfect. That’s how we are human.

 

Say it out loud.. I FEEL VALUED, I AM WORTHY

QuotingAbraham Lincoln “It is difficult to make a man miserable while he feels worthy of himself”

Share this if you want your dear ones to feel worthy too

Until Next,

Keep Smiling..